What is love? What is happiness?
This is what was on my mind after I meditated this morning. So today I’m going to free write my answers and share them with you. Why? Because I believe these are the 2 most important topics of life. And I’m on a mission to help bring more love into the world. So here goes:
Happiness comes from love. Happiness is something that you create in your mind and in your heart. You tap into it even on the days you feel like your world is crashing down around you. Happiness doesn’t mean you always have a smile plastered to your face. It is a state of being. Knowing in your mind and in your heart that even when the shit hits the fan and you are sad or angry about life happenings, somehow you still feel happiness inside you and in your life.
That may sound weird to some people. Maybe to everyone. Maybe it doesn’t even sound real. But it is. I know. I have been that person with life crashing down and not knowing what to do and feeling overwhelmed and yet I still knew I am a happy person dealing with some uncomfortable or shitty situations. It sounds weird rereading what I wrote..maybe even unreal.
How do I better explain? Happiness doesn’t mean I never get mad or sad. It doesn’t mean that I don’t cry or feel pain. I do. Yet somehow I also have hope and faith. I struggle with my hope and faith at times and I have my pity parties and get my dark emotions out and yet I still turn around and know I am happy.
Maybe it is because I know that the discomfort I am going through is temporary even when it feels like it is going on forever. I don’t know when it works out or how but I trust somehow it works out for my greatest good. That doesn’t mean I sit and watch my life go by. I actively participate supporting my intentions and life affirmations bringing about life prosperity. Yet Shit happens. It does. I cannot control anyone or everything. Each of us has free will.
I live most days in gratitude, yet I have moments and days I fall off the wagon. And still I consider myself happy.
Five ways to know you are happy: Keep in mind this is about consistency and NOT PERFECTION.
- You smile from the inside out: not necessarily daily more like consistently and not like it is plastered to your face and fake. A real joyful smile coming from inside you and emanating out of you. So much so, you don’t even realize you are smiling at times and people naturally smile back at you.
- Even when you are going through difficult times, you have hope that your life will get better.
- You can see and accept yourself warts and all most of the time and you give this same acceptance to your inner circle of loved ones.
- You consistently laugh. Maybe not daily, but almost everyday you find something amusing. Laughter is hugely important to happiness
- You live life in the present and enjoy. Worrying creates more to worry about and doesn’t change anything. Just take action where you can.
So if Happiness comes from love, what is love? Love for me is the feeling of acceptance and pure delight. It is loving my imperfections and all of me which makes me, ME. And doing the same for other people. Does that mean I like everything about everyone? No, not even myself. And yet, I accept those things I dislike about myself and about people I love because I love them. I’m not talking about things that hurt people, drastic stuff. I’m talking about the imperfections that make us human and at times drive us crazy, if we allow it. Some of it is how we choose to experience it. There was a time in my life I would say if only ____ would change ____, then we would be happier. That is NOT an example of acceptance or DEEP LOVE.
That is the thinking that keeps us stuck and in the same motions over and over and over. Living out repetitive patterns in many of our relationships. YUCK.
Love for myself: I am my best friend. I enjoy time with me. I am loud and big energy. I love to laugh. I have a sharp tongue, very little filter, a “truck driver’s mouth” and a sharp temper all with my HUGE heart. My loved ones know, I will drop anything to be there for you. I trust easily until it is broken and then it is hard for me to trust again. I’m getting better at forgiveness. My son is great at it and I’m learning from him. Boundaries with strangers are super easy; with loved ones they are harder, yet they are necessary to take care of me. I am in a progressive state of love with my body after many years of war. I love my hair and the way my green eyes change color. I love not looking my age. I’m NOT PERFECT. I aim to do the best I can and be the best me I can be at any given moment and that changes from time to time. I love me. And saying that and meaning it down to my core, makes me happy.
I agree with the Dali Lama about life. Life for me is about the journey of love and happiness.